By Jayaram V
Most fears are imagined or anticipated. People tend to exaggerate
their fears and suffer more than necessary. Fears are good for survival.
They keep you safe.
However, fears can also paralyze you and make you defensive or
prevent you from achieving your goals or actualizing your talents
and skills.
One of the most common fears is the fear of rejection. It is
part of the fear of failure. Many people do not venture to ask for
help or support because of it. They do not lead a life they deserve
because of it, and settle for less.
How can you deal with such common fears? One of the natural responses
in the face of fear is flight or escape. People try to escape from
fear producing situations or try to avoid them by all means.
This is not an effective strategy, except in grave situations
when one�s life is threatened or the odds are heavily staked against
taking any action. It prevents people from being effective or taking
control of their lives, problems or situations.
The effective way to deal with your fears is to chase them or
follow them. Do what you fear or face the situation which is causing
the fear. In most cases you will realize that your fears were exaggerated
or not as serious or threatening as you feared or imagined.
Go after your fears. Pursue them. Instead of being the hunted
or the haunted, hunt them down. See what happens. Treat them as
myths that need to be be dispelled or proven false. This is one
of the best strategies to overcome your common fears in daily life.
If you are afraid of something, just try doing it. Face your fears
or follow them with commonsense strategies and approaches.