Dr. Robert Anthony
Having trouble reaching all your goals? Are you going for what
you want, but feeling like something is road-blocking the way? Are
you finding yourself "not" doing some of the things you
know you should be doing?
You may be a victim of sabotage---self-sabotage. How do you know,
and what can you do about it? Read on and see.
1. Focusing on what is not working,
not right or missing from your life.
Problem: Notice how often you speak about and think about what
is not working, not right, or missing from your life. This only
attracts more of the things you donï¿½t want.
Action: Ask yourself a new question: "What's going right?"
or "What IS working?" Begin to notice all the things,
no matter how small, that are working well. Keep an evidence journal
and each day write down everything, I do mean everything, that is
working and you will attract more of what is working!
2. Being stuck in fear:
Problem: Do you worry a lot about the future and what is
going to happen or might happen? Are you thinking about your fears
so much that you are paralyzed and take no action because of fear
of what might occur?
Action: It is time to put your focus on the present. We can't
control or predict the future or other people's behaviors. All we
can control is our own, right here, right now.
Ask yourself the question "What is the worst thing that
could happen?" Then, let go and know that rarely do the scenarios
we create in our heads occur. Take a moment to put things into perspective
by writing down the things you can not change, the things you want
change, and accept that the Universe, God, Spirit, whatever you
call it will take of the rest. It always does!
3. Feeling you have no value.
Problem: Do you forget all your accomplishments and lack pride
in who you are and what you have accomplished? If you obsess about
the past or your lack of success or lack of achievement, then you'll
be stuck in noticing how much you lack as a person. If you often
criticize yourself or can't accept compliments, itï¿½s a definite
sign that you have fallen into this trap.
Action: You can choose to notice what you do that is good and
the things you can be proud of, no matter how small they may seem.
Each day keep a log of what you are grateful for about YOU. When
you hear your mind chattering about what you haven't done right
or well, turn down the volume and turn up the volume to hear the
voice that knows the TRUTH about who you are and how you add value
to the world.
Acknowledge yourself for at least 5 things each and every day
that you did well. Each day, compliment yourself on something you
did that you feel good about. Notice your small successes and accept
the compliments others give you.
4. Comparing yourself to others.
Problem: Do you constantly compare yourself to others and then
feel badly when compared to them? Comparison doesn't motivate us
to do more or be better, instead it makes us feel we'll never be
good enough and we aren't right now.
Action: Write out the 5 qualities you like best about yourself.
Then write out what you value most in your life. When you go to
a place of comparison, notice how similar you are with the other
person vs. what is different. Begin to create a list of adjectives
that describe you - at least 25 positive words about your greatness.
Whenever you notice yourself in a comparison mode, think of some
of the adjectives that describe YOU.
5. Self-Sabotage ï¿½ getting what
you want and then losing it.
Problem: Do you not believe that you deserve to have what you
want? When you get what you want, why do you often lose it or mess
it up? What is the true story underneath - maybe that you think
aren't good enough to have it?
Action: List all the things you have accomplished that faded
away. Simply notice these things, but donï¿½t place any judgment on
the fact they disappeared. How did they bring you satisfaction?
How did they make you feel? What is the limiting belief that you
have that tells you inside why you can't have what you want? Be
quiet, be still and listen to it.
Write down how you felt when you had what you wanted. Write down
how you feel now, without it. Then write a "bridge belief":
A very, very small belief that feels a little bit better than what
you now feel. Each week, create a new bridge belief, not matter
how small, that you can really believe. By using these bridges as
stepping-stones, you'll shift your limiting beliefs slowly and be
on the other side of the bridge and able to maintain it because
you will have a new belief inside of you.
6. You chase away relationships.
Problem: Do you always feel something is missing in your relationships
or find fault with the other person? Perhaps you are afraid of intimacy.
Underneath this is usually a fear of abandonment or exposure that
causes you to distance yourself from others.
Action: Create a list of the qualities you value in a relationship
and the qualities you want to attract in your partners. Express
what you want and don't want to the other person and allow them
to express the same to you. Create time to acknowledge the other
person on a regular basis. Notice when you feel afraid. Don't try
to push the feelings away. Know that the feelings are there and
that is fine. Then, in that moment, focus on what feels good about
7. Having no purpose.
Problem: Do you feel you have no purpose in life? We all have
some purpose for being on the planet and it is time to notice yours.
Action: Write down all the things that are important to you ï¿½
the thing you want to create in your life. Then write out what you
want to contribute to the world. From your writing, create a statement
of purpose for yourself that you can read each and every day.
Then stop worrying about not knowing your purpose and start creating
what you desire now. It doesnï¿½t matter what you want in the future.
So start creating something you want in your life NOW. This action
will ultimately put you in alignment and bring you closer to your
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