By John R.Barker
Recently I worked with a client who found himself in a couple
of situations many of us have either experienced, or fear experiencing.
He called me, feeling down, frustrated and anxious about his future.
In the same week, he was laid off at work and experienced the end
of a six-year relationship. Ouch!
As we explored his situation, we discovered a couple of things.
First, he really didnï¿½t like his job and it was not leading him
towards the financial success he desired. And second, the relationship
that ended was an unhappy one for quite some time. Yet, he wanted
to hold on to both of them and felt upset over what had occurred.
You see, many of us find ourselves in similar situations in life.
We have something that isnï¿½t quite what we want, but if we were
to lose it great fear and insecurity arises.
There are two forces that drive your life and prevent you from
really having what you desire: Attachments and aversions.
We become attached to what is comfortable for us; things that
give us a false sense of having what we want; things that temporarily
make us feel better for brief moments only to leave us feeling rotten
later. These attachments can include unfulfilling jobs, relationships
that lack passion, bad habits such as smoking or overeating, and
thousands of other possibilities.
Our attachments often prevent us from making the space in our
life to have what we really desire. If life is a buffet, we have
our plates full of food we donï¿½t really like meaning there isnï¿½t
any room for dessert.
Hanging on to that unfulfilling job for its false sense of security
prevented this man from finding work he feels excited about doing
ï¿½ or starting a business of his own. His attachment to the mediocre
relationship prevented him from exploring new possibilities and
meeting someone who really loved him, and someone he really loved
We he saw this for himself, his energy took a dramatic turn in
the positive direction.self help, selfhelpvision He saw new opportunity
in his life instead of fear and loss.self help, selfhelpvision This
one simple realization could likely change the course of his entire
We also have aversions. These are the things in life that feel
uncomfortable to us. It could be making an important phone call,
or asking out someone we are really attracted to, or getting in
front of a room and sharing our brilliance. Aversions prevent us
from moving forward, taking action and manifesting what we desire.
Aversions prevent you from acting on your immense potential.
What are attachments and aversions and how can we overcome them?
Attachments and aversions are nothing more than feelings. Many
of us say ï¿½I am frustratedï¿½, but the truth is ï¿½I feel frustratedï¿½.
I am having a feeling; I am not the feeling.
There is a wonderful technique called the Sedona Method that
teaches a simple set of techniques that allow us to effortlessly
ï¿½let goï¿½ of any unwanted thought or feeling ï¿½ any attachment or
aversion. With these blocks removed, you will feel more confidence,
more at ease and more willing to take the bold actions that produce
We can fight and struggle and force our way to success. We really
can. I know. I have done it. But ultimately it is a hard, stressful,
frustrating journey. I think you know what I mean.self help, selfhelpvision
Or we can learn to easily overcome the resistance that creates
a flow to life.self help, selfhelpvision When we overcome our attachments
and aversions, we become truly free to be, do and have whatever
we desire. Itï¿½s easy. It really is.
I encourage you to learn more about any program that teaches
you to ï¿½let goï¿½. It is the most powerful personal development tool
I have ever learned. My favorite program on the market is the Sedona
Method course ï¿½ the original and still the best program of its kind.
The link below offers a free newsletter to learn more, and you can
also order a free introductory tape that includes a demonstration
of one of the basic releasing techniques they teach. I encourage
you to experience this program for yourself and discover the exhilarating
possibility of true freedom from your attachments and aversions.
Wishing you all the success and abundance you can allow into
John R. Barker